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My first time felt uncomfortable
Despite the buzz, energy, and obvious impact, there is always someone who comes to me after the exercise and says, "That was great, but it didn't feel natural."
Does it ever feel natural the first time?
I want to scream "You've been adopting and using nervous body language for twenty years!!! Of course it is going to feel unnatural the first time!!!!!!"
It is not often that the first time you do something feels totally comfortable and natural. It nearly always feels a bit weird to start with.
Let me give you some examples:
Just because it doesn't feel natural the first time doesn't mean you should stop. It means you need to keep going to practice until it becomes natural.
Don't let the fact that something feels a little awkward or off stop you from pressing on and having a go! It is bound to feel a little weird first time but if you keep at it then you will find it becomes natural and is just the way you are.
If you want to feel confident then stand and move confidently. Of course it is going to feel weird if you haven't done it for a while. That doesn't mean you should go back to being hunched over and shy for the rest of your life. It just means you should push in and keep going.
It is probably not going to feel comfortable the first time you do anything. That is not an excuse to crawl back into your comfort zone.
What do I really want to say?
Man-up, practice and keep going. Do it twenty times and if it still doesn't feel comfortable then let's chat and work out how to make it comfortable.
Just because you didn't 100% enjoy it the first time doesn't mean you should never do it again.
Here are my top 5 strategies for overcoming this initial discomfort
I hope this helps you to tackle your next project and get going. Or if there is something you have tried before but not made it through then it inspires you to give it another go.
Just get involved, commit and keep doing it. It is never going to feel that comfortable the first time and that is just something you need to get used to.
I would love to know if there is something you are committing to give a go knowing that you are going to have to go through the period of uncomfortableness?
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Good luck and please use my energy and words as inspiration to make your own dreams come true!